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Did you know that you’re important and that you are worth so much more than you think you are? Did you know that you was created so uniquely and that there is a divine plan and calling upon your life to fulfil purpose. Did you know that your beauty is set apart from the rest and that there is NO ONE on this planet that has the ability to be YOU? Did you know that you are a precious diamond in the eyes of others and that you have all the potential to be exactly what you would like to be? You are amazing, you are incredible and are of priceless value because your expense is beyond figures and not even money could buy something as valuable as YOU.

Now as you read this, I would like for you to allow these beautiful words to soak into you and allow this TRUTH to minister to your soul, tug at the strings of your heart and enter the reality of your mind. I also want you to hold onto this divine truth especially when times get hard and always remember that regardless of what has happened to you that: YOU ARE WORTH IT!!!!

You are worth it not only because I have said you are but because there is a genuine purpose for your life that is destined to be fulfilled and you are the only one that can accomplish it. You have been created because of your speciality, uniqueness and because of everything that is placed inside of you. You have been called to impact, blow and encourage the minds of others and there could have been no better person to be picked than YOU. You are beautiful unstoppable, unshakable and have been fearlessly made. Your fingerprint is unique and there is no one on this earth that could possible compare to how special you are as a person. You are bold, confident and are a walking manifestation of strength and of what you have overcome and because of this you are so worth it!

You are not a product of your environment and you are not the reason why your past has happened to you but what you carry now and because of what you’ve been through is going to impact nations and so many people around you. You will accomplish great things and will never be held back by your past experiences and because of this; you will continue to go from strength to strength. Your fearless character and undeniable strength is what will continually encourage others and even in the midst of your weaknesses you will feel amplified because you know that what you carry is greater than what is behind you.

You are a treasured soul and there is a reason why you survived the many things that you did I just want you to keep on fighting and trusting the process of your journey. Your strength supersedes all and you are an individual of virtue. And the pain that you once encountered will soon turn into purpose. Your happiness is important to me and I promise you that you will learn to smile again. The real joy that you’ve always dreamt of will no longer be a dream but it will be made your new reality. Your life will never be the same and everlasting healing will overtake you and you will no longer look back because what is placed in front of you is going to BEAUTIFUL.



So how do you rebuild yourself after something that has torn you down? How do you feel like somebody that is worthy again? Particularly when you feel as though you’re worthless? And how do you ensure that you are on a road to recovery and healing from such hurt and traumatic pain? Well, life after abuse is never no easy transition, the survivors are often left with a pain that cripples them for the rest of their lives. The memories that are also incurred through these detrimental experiences are lifelong and sometimes we are left with sincere feelings of unforgiveness, bitterness and resentment.

Throughout this blog, I’d like you to put your guard down for the duration of time that you’ll be reading this, I know that this is easier said than done. But, I feel as though having your guard down will put you in a place where you’ll be able to receive and get the absolute best. If you receive something you are also accepting it which means the words, affirmations and encouragement will be accepted by you as a free gift and your life will never, I repeat NEVER be the same again.

Rebuilding yourself after abuse

Rebuilding yourself after abuse can often feel like a lonely experience it can feel as though you’re in this dark hole seeking your way out for survival. At times we may still feel as though we are physically scarred, so we spend countless hours in the bath or shower washing ourselves away from the uncleanliness that we’ve experienced. Our minds can also be captivated and invaded by daily questions that we often may ask ourselves like, why? and how? Within this process we may even start blaming ourselves and through this shame and guilt can often become our very best friends.

However, if we begin to uncover the above and deal with every element that are the branches of abuse. We can then start to feel much better within ourselves with a sense of empowerment as opposed to disengagement. We can feel as though we are no longer in that dark place seeking for survival as we’ve dealt with some of the roots and we are now in control of who we are as well as who we become after such things have happened to us. So, my first step of rebuilding yourself would be to access the help you need. There are many worldwide and UK based organisations that will actively work with you and allow you to receive the help you need; these organisations are specially equipped in dealing with the after effects of sexual abuse and some of the mentors and support workers you will receive have also gone through this trauma themselves.

Another very important step in rebuilding yourself is no longer blaming yourself for what has happened to you. Often times when we go through such abuse, we tend to blame ourselves and hold ourselves liable for what has happened to us, but I am here to tell you today that you have every deserving right within you to be set free and released from such bondage. The abuse that happened to you was no fault of your own but was solely based on the control, manipulation and physical misconduct of your oppressor. They were the ones that were wrong, and it will never be your fault.

Lastly, my last step in rebuilding yourself would be to speak words of positivity and meaning over your life. Words are powerful and have so much meaning and so if we continue to speak positive words over our existence our realities as well as the perspective we have of ourselves suddenly begin to change. Listed below is some positive affirmations that you can practice daily and speak into your life as often as you can.

  1. I am loved,
  2. I am worthy
  3. I deserve happiness and to live a life of freedom,
  4. I am in control of how I feel and most importantly, who I am.
  5. I am beautiful.

We are accountable for our freedom

Did you know that you are accountable for your own freedom? Yes, that’s right we have full ownership over how we feel and can permit ourselves to either feel in bondage or feel as if the shackles have come off of our feet completely. Sometimes choosing freedom is a difficult decision as it comes with the choice of letting the people that have once held us in captivity go, and as a result of this being able to forgive them from what they have done to us. Freedom is also a choice and can come with a lot of testing. Now I use the word testing because sometimes we can come face to face with our abusers unintendedly and with that stated, the real test begins. How we react to them will tell us straight away if we are walking in freedom and from that moment onwards we can either set ourselves free or hold the person that abused us hostage. But when it is all uncovered we will then see that somehow, we are the ones that are suffering and not them.

Nonetheless, despite the process of freedom being a difficult one, it is also a journey worth thriving for, your freedom is such a powerful thing that doesn’t ever deserve the control of another human being and with that said we should all continue to fight until we reach the point where we are no longer bound by our experiences and what has happened to us, but to a point where we are liberated by our past and as a result of this using it change the world.

I was this has impacted your life in way that you can regain your life back.

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